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00:00 In This Episode

00:29 Introducing

00:41 How to Reflect on Relationships

03:01 Intrusive Thoughts and Traumatic Relationships

05:00 The Confusion of Interpreting Manipulation

06:34 Categorizing Dangerous Behavior

-Previous interview with Peter: https://youtu.be/3NIPDxiiRrs

07:00 The Precursor to Healthy Emotional Processing

10:28 Evolution and the Superstimulus of Love Bombing

13:21 The Value of Self-Love

-Interview with Harry Reis: https://youtu.be/PKbyOtxvwJM

15:04 How Manipulation Damages the Brain

17:39 Successful People Can Be Targeted

19:40 Intelligent People Can Be Manipulated

21:37 Evolution and the Opportunities for Manipulation

22:35 Traits of People Who Are Targeted

-Women Who Love Psychopaths: https://youtu.be/i3wk1RdfHiI

25:37 Agreeableness and Valuing Others

30:03 Know You're Traits. Don't Pathologize Them.

31:05 People Who Do Not Value Others

32:59 The Goal: Recovering from Reality Distortion

35:55 Introducing the Triangle Tool

39:26 Triangle: Impression, Behavior, and Explanation

43:09 The Weight of Confusion and Cognitive Dissonance

44:28 How to Evaluate the Behavior of Others

48:10 Graphic: Heider's Balance Theory (Social Psychology)

48:58 Recognizing Diagnostic Behavior

53:59 High and Low Diagnostic Behavior

56:48 Deciding Whom to Trust

1:00:46 Deeper Explanation of the Triangle Tool

1:08:49 Role-Playing the Triangle Tool

1:14:48 Evaluating the Triangle Tool

1:18:12 Recognizing Intentional Harm

1:19:32 Repaired Relationships Vs. Partial Repair

1:20:46 Evolutionary Perspective On Investment In Relationship

1:23:44 Refining the Understanding of Doubt

1:25:20 Doubt Doesn't Mean You're Wrong

1:27:24 find Deb Lieberman & Peter Salerno online

1:28:18 Peter's Lessons from Doing the Workbook

1:30:12 Deb's Lessons from Doing the Workbook

1:32:23 Good Relationships Are Possible!

1:33:46 Further Recommendations

-Previous interview with Peter & Deb: https://youtu.be/fllr7gLgDgE

RESOURCES

Previous interview with Peter & Deb: https://youtu.be/fllr7gLgDgE

Previous interview with Peter: https://youtu.be/3NIPDxiiRrs

Interview with Harry Reis: https://youtu.be/PKbyOtxvwJM

Peter and Deb's book: https://amzn.to/3SNwIZP

Peter Salerno's website: https://www.drpetersalerno.com/

Peter on YouTube: @DrPeterSalerno

Deb's lab: https://liebermanlabs.com

Deb's business: https://rdqnlabs.com

Brad's microphone: https://amzn.to/4jVOjqq

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In this episode, Dr. Debra Lieberman and Dr. Peter Salerno discuss how to rebuild self-trust after suffering from covert relational abuse.

Predatory Relationships: How To Spot Them - Peter Salerno & Deb Lieberman

How to Know If You Dated a Predator - Peter Salerno & Deb Lieberman

How to Know If He's a Social Predator (1)

How to Be Sure You're Dealing with a Predator (2)

How Narcissists Confuse Their Targets (3)

How Narcissists Keep You Doubting Yourself

The Most Logical Way to Identify Social Predators

The Most Rational Way to Spot Toxic People

The Rational Way to Get Over Your Narcissistic Ex

The Psychological Tactics of Social Predators

How Social Predators Confuse Everyone

How to Overcome Cognitive Dissonance

The Framework to Identify a Social Predator

The Scientific Way to Identify Social Predators

The Logical Way to Identify Social Predators

Don't Blame Yourself

They Confuse You On Purpose