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Have you noticed how the narcissist’s apology never is an apology? How yesterday's fight get rewritten so you’re the villain?

In this episode, Kerry and Lynn Strathdee expose the hidden mechanics behind chronic antagonism. Why some narcissists need ongoing drama to stay in control and to keep you exhausted.

The history-rewriting along with the non-stop crisis cycle are to keep you under control so you’re centering your life around them. It's about supply and control.

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KERRY MCAVOY, PHD, an author and educator, draws on her 25-year background in psychology and her lived experience as a survivor to help individuals decode toxic dynamics, recognize manipulation, and rebuild self-trust. Her memoir, “Love You More,” offers an uncensored glimpse into the dynamics of narcissistic abuse.

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00:00 They feed off drama: conflict keeps you in line

00:47 When the fight isn't really about the fight

03:26 Some people feed off conflict

05:11 How the fight-and-make-up cycle builds a trauma bond

08:48 They matter, you don't

09:39 "I felt replaceable"

11:44 Scripted intimacy: the strawberry date

13:47 We walk into relationships hungry

17:22 Why you didn't see it coming

18:37 They want attention, not connection

20:46 When they cast you in a role

25:53 Shadow: why the good stuff is hardest to own

28:11 Preview: rewriting history to dodge the blame